boyfriend is a regular male companion with whom one is romantically or sexually
involved, while a girlfriend is a regular female companion with whom one is
having a romantic or sexual relationship with. Such relationship involves two
persons –a “boy and a girl”, “a boy and a boy”, “a girl and a girl”, “a man and
a girl”, and “woman and a boy” who may be classmates, school mates, neighbours,
brethren, colleagues, Facebook friends, Instagram, WhatsApp, and Twitter fans.
a relationship is mostly short-term, deadly, demanding, threatening, planless,
purposeless, undirected, unguided, aimlessly drifting, deceitful, lustful, and
immoral. It is initiated and maintained for needless reasons. Be warned! I don’t think you need to be in a boy-girl friend
relationship because of its ugly end and unpleasant consequences.
The End of a Boy-Girl Relationship
end of a boy-girl friend relationship is not pleasant at all. It is ugly and
highly problematic. It has already ruined the lives of thousands of people,
especially youths, and has devastated their future and make them useless and
relationship may not end in marriage because the people involved are not ready
for marriage. They may deceive themselves by having false undefined hope that
they will marry. However, in a few cases, it may result in a regrettable
marriage. Thus, marital success is not guaranteed for boyfriends and
girlfriends who end up marrying. Therefore, there is no need to have a
Consequences of having a
consequences of having a boyfriend/girlfriend are numerous:
It may increase the chance of being involved in
It may give birth to lack of concentration, poor
attention span, low self-esteem, poor academic achievement, indecision, lack of
self-confidence, wrong choice of spouse, delayed marriage, fear, anxiety, sexually
transmitted infections, HIV, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, school dropout,
anger, emotional trauma, depression, and poor time management and other medical
and psychological problems.
It may cause defilement of spirit, soul, and body.
Its activities may displease God.
It can delay marriage.
It can increase the chance of making a wrong choice of
whom to marry.
How to avoid entering into a boy-girl
Don’t desire it
you will still marry if you don’t have boyfriend/girlfriend
Make a decision
not to have one
Set godly values
to guide your life
Seek the grace of
God to help you
Wait patiently for
your husband or wife
reason why you don’t need such a relationship
consequences of the relationship
Don’t be idle in
mind. Occupy your mind with the thought of your purpose
Find out who God
is to you and fear Him
Get wise counsel
Take a stand now to say “no” to
counsel you to take a stand to say “no”
to boyfriend/girlfriend relationship so you might lead a successful life. This
counsel is in line with the fundamental rules of God which must be maintained
by all. For instance, one of the fundamental rules is that you should not arouse or awaken
love until it so desires (Song
of Songs 2:7, NIV). You can agree with me that boyfriend/girlfriend
relationship arouses and awakens love and that violets the fundamental rule of
God. Therefore, stay away from it and wait for the time appointed for you to
look at this: “You adulterous people,
don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God?
Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of
God (James 4:4). One way people
become friends in the world is to have a boyfriend/girlfriend. This is because
the concept of boyfriend/girlfriend was invented by the world and it is
controlled by the world. Whoever is involved in it does not belong to God. You
can make your choice now! Whom do you belong? Is it God or the devil (the
world)? If you belong to God you need to say no to boyfriend/girlfriend
relationship. Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God
transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind (Romans 12:2). The
standard of this world, in this context, is having a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Change your mind from it completely so God can transform your life.
final counsel on this matter is: “Do not be unequally yoked together with
unbelievers. For what [a]fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And
what [b]communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with
Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement
has the temple of God with idols? For you[c] are the temple of the living God.
As God has said: “I will dwell in them and walk among them. I will be their
God, and they shall be My people.” 17 Therefore “Come out from among them and
be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, and I will receive you.”
(2 Corinthians 6:14-18)
are too important and valuable to be wasted in a boyfriend/girlfriend
relationship. The Lord desires that you take a stand to say “no” to it so you
can become His temple (Dwelling place or house). He wants you to be relevant to
His kingdom. Accept His invitation to stand for Him now. Here I am (Christ)! I stand at the door and
knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with
that person, and they with me (Revelation 3:20). Don’t miss this opportunity
to meet with the Lord Jesus. God bless you. [Related Articles: “15 False Things
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